Meddling Moms
One of the greatest desires of most parents is to see their children succeed. As a result, they sometimes push a little harder than they should. On occasion, they even interfere in situations that are best left for their children to manage.
My Mom was
like that. She and my Dad were so proud
when I graduated from Law School. They
couldn’t wait for the day that I would be sworn in as an attorney. Unfortunately, it was almost three months
after I took the bar exam until I finally became official. That was three months of agony, waiting to
see if I passed the exam. It wasn’t
until the swearing-in ceremony that I found out how impatient my Mother had
been.
After the
ceremony, we each stood in line at the Kentucky Supreme Court Clerk’s office to
receive our certificates that declared us to be full-fledged members of the
Kentucky Bar. When my time finally came,
I gave the clerk my name. She looked at
me very seriously—almost angrily—and said, “So, you’re Elaine Duncan!” I had never met this woman and didn’t have a
clue why she responded as she did. I
replied rather sheepishly, “Yes,” wondering what I could have possibly done to
upset her.
Later that
day, I told my family about the incident.
It was then that Mom spilled the beans.
She and my Dad had been planning a vacation with friends, but they
couldn’t risk missing my big day.
Unbeknownst to me, Mom contacted one of our State Representatives that
she knew and explained the problem. The
Representative began calling the Clerk’s office regularly to inquire
about my status. My Mom’s eagerness
almost got me in hot water before I had practiced one day.
Two of the
disciples had a similar problem with their Mom.
The mother of James and John was probably no stranger to Jesus’
ministry. Her sons were early followers
of Jesus and had given up their lives as fishermen to follow Him. It’s no wonder then that she wanted the very
best for them. Unfortunately, when she
approached Jesus with her request, she had no idea what she was really
asking.
Shortly
before Jesus’ crucifixion, she came to Jesus one day, asking for a favor on
behalf of her sons. (Matthew 20:
20). As Mark tells it in his Gospel
account (Mark 10: 35 – 45), unlike me, her boys were in on her activities on
their behalf. This mother, wanting only
the best for her boys, asked Jesus to give them the highest positions in His
Kingdom—one on His right and one on His left.
I wonder what she thought of Jesus’ answer, “You don’t know what you are
asking” (Matthew 20:22a NIV84). He was
right, of course, as the next few days would reveal.
Her
question stirred up trouble among the disciples who were angry that James and
John would try to get the upper hand.
Rather than rebuke them, Jesus set them all straight, teaching us a
valuable lesson at the same time. He
said,
“Whoever
wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be
first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but
to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20: 26b – 28 NIV84).
As much as
we want to help our loved ones succeed, sometimes we don’t know what we are
asking. Fortunately, my Mom’s actions
only caused me a few moments of uneasiness.
I’m not sure that we can say the same about the actions of the Disciples’
Mom. I can’t help but wonder what the
Mother of James and John was thinking a few days later when her sons went into
hiding and Jesus hung, dying on the cross.
Did she think about His words that day—"You don’t know what you
are asking”?
Instead of
striving for success and prestige, maybe we should be teaching our children to
be servants. That’s what Jesus was, and
I can’t think of a better person to emulate.
Matthew
20: 20 - 28
This is too funny about your mom!
ReplyDeleteYes, but very typical. Thanks for reading.
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